Smooth Talk and Empty Promises

Why We Fall for the Charade

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It’s a tragic commentary on the state of humanity when the hot take from a political debate is, “It was boring because nobody threw a punch.” One man stands there—hair perfectly coiffed, smile just so, nose angled smugly—as if the key takeaway from his performance is that it lacked the drama of a reality TV episode. He oozes charm and manages to twist his dark, divisive agenda into something that sparkles like a promise of love and unity, worthy of an Oscar nomination. Yet somehow, we’re surprised?

The sad truth is we’ve grown so used to being gaslit that we almost want to believe him. Maybe we’ve developed a Stockholm Syndrome for smooth-talking politicians. Take, for instance, the reactions online. Post after post from women expressed excitement that this man—who shall remain nameless, but let’s just call him Slick Smiley—spoke passionately about “family values.” “Finally! Someone who cares about families!” they gushed. It’s almost sweet if you ignore that his party has consistently voted against every piece of legislation that would actually help families thrive. But, hey, who needs policies when you’ve got a great smile?

And we wonder why women have been subjugated for centuries. As a woman, I get it. I, too, have been charmed by the smooth-talker—the one who promises he’ll protect me from the big, bad world, only to drain my self-worth dry like a thirsty energy vampire. It’s almost a cliché at this point: standing in front of these men with hard evidence of their lies, only to watch them deflect, point fingers, and ultimately blame everyone but themselves. It’s like being in a twisted Shakespearean play where they’re both the villain and the tragic hero.

Take narcissists like JD Vance or Trump, who could make a career out of deflecting blame. “It’s not me; it’s them,” they say with practiced indignation. One minute, Vance is lamenting how the Vice President has had three whole years to accomplish everything she wanted, and the next, conveniently forgetting that his own party threw up every roadblock possible. Oh, but it’s still her fault, right? The victim complex is almost awe-inspiring if it weren’t so predictably pathetic.

I’m no tried and true Democrat either, but at least Waltz had the decency to tell the truth once in a while. We’re so used to political theater that a straightforward statement feels like a novelty, and we doubt its authenticity. Remember how furious Vance got when a female moderator dared to fact-check him? Show up with receipts, and the toddler throws a temper tantrum. This is the caliber of leadership we’re dealing with—grown men who melt down when asked to face reality.

Our government needs a lot of change, and I’m the first to admit that the Democrats have more than a few skeletons rattling around in their closets. But at least they’re not trying to shove anyone back into theirs. While one party is busy lighting matches and burning down what little progress we’ve made, the other is, at minimum, attempting to keep people out of the metaphorical broom closets they’ve been forced into for generations.

We’ve become so accustomed to the mudslinging and the constant dehumanization of political discourse that when a candidate shows up with nothing more than a slick delivery and a finely tuned word salad, we swoon. He’s like the fast-talking salesman who promises a miracle cure, if only we’d stop asking so many questions and just fall in line. Maybe the real problem isn’t just these snake oil salesmen—maybe it’s our desperate longing to be lied to in a way that makes us feel good. We want to be told everything will be alright, that all our problems will be solved if we just let them take the reins and, oh, maybe get out of their way. Because, apparently, all it takes to fix a nation’s problems is a confident smile, some hollow platitudes, and the magical ability to make people forget your voting record.

It’s almost laughable—if it weren’t so tragic. We’re lured in by the charisma, swooning over the superficial display of empathy, and before we know it, we’re “in love,” falling for the love bombing hook, line, and sinker. Swooning over our favorite superstar, even though we know he beats his dog.  Cheering for someone who has shown us time and again that his actions betray his words. But hey, he sounded nice, right? He didn’t throw mud or call anyone names. In today’s political circus, that’s enough to pass for integrity.

So, where does that leave us? Applauding the performance, all the while ignoring the fact that the stage is crumbling beneath our feet. Maybe it’s time we stop letting the slick talkers, the masters of spin, and the snake oil salesmen dazzle us with their charm. Maybe it’s time we stopped settling for well-packaged nothings and started holding out for the truth—even when it’s not wrapped up in a pretty bow.

Because in the end, the greatest insult isn’t the name-calling or the mudslinging. It’s the subtle, insidious way they trick us into forgetting who they really are—and, more importantly, who we really are. Until we stop falling for the show, we’ll be forever stuck applauding actors in a play we unwittingly agreed to be part of.